Saturday, May 11, 2013

The Waiting

photograph by Russell Lee (1903-1986)
She was up to nine cars. She had been counting cars for the last 23 minutes and 32 seconds. At 12 minutes and 14 seconds, she saw her friend Jane go by in the fifth car with her mother. She waved frantically from behind the window, jumping like a chimpanzee on the couch. She knew there was little hope at gaining her friend’s attention, but it gave her something to do while she waited.


Ten cars.


She was looking out for her mother’s car. A van, to be specific. A Ford van, to be even more specific. They were a Ford family. Her dad worked at Ford. They only bought Fords. Before car manufacturing became a grey area of global “fingers in the pie” Ford families thought that to buy un-American cars meant that you were un-American. Those were different times.


Eleven cars.


She kneeled backwards on the couch with her nose pressed to the window and began to daydream. Her mother occupied a space in her mind reserved for deities. She was sure that there was no other mother as beautiful as hers. Her mother took time to make her hair fancy and to watch her put on makeup was like one watching Michelangelo put the finishing touches on the Sistine Chapel. She was confident that her mother was an artist of unique skill. Her mother could sew and could make dresses and even pants for her children. And her mother could cook. Her mother could perform magic in the kitchen and conjure the tastiest lasagna from some mystical plane. She imagined her mother dressed like Glenda the Good Witch and making dinner float to the table using her wand.


Twelve cars.


The anticipation was comforting. She lived for this time of the day. The waiting. The excitement of being the first to see her mother was such a joy to her, and her mother’s smile was a treasure that she tucked into secret spaces in her heart. She stood up and examined the pattern that the couch fabric pressed into her knees. She liked the bumpy texture and ran her fingers back and forth over them as she waited.


A thirteenth car. No, it was bigger than a car. It might be a van. It IS a van. It’s her mother’s van! Her mother is getting closer. Her mother is pulling in the driveway. Her mother is getting out and walking up the sidewalk. Oh, what’s that her mother is carrying? She gets to the door just before her mother and holds it open for her as if she’s preparing an entrance for royalty. Her mother smiles at her and bends down to give her a kiss. The smile is tucked away into her heart’s secret spaces.


“Look what I brought you!”


She looks with excitement at the Sesame Street Magazine as her mother slips it into her small hands. It is like the most sparkly diamond. A treasure. A gift bestowed from a goddess. Contentment wraps her as if with a warm blanket. She is loved.


HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!

Sunday, April 28, 2013

You Sick Bastard

You posted something on Facebook and NO ONE has liked it. You thought that there might be people on Facebook early on a Sunday. You thought that you had friends who woke up pretty early. You're friends with a LOT of parents. Parents wake up pretty early. Like most of your Facebook friends are parents because you have your friends that you've shared family life with in Columbus and those that you've shared a past with who now have kids. You thought THOSE people might be on Facebook on a Sunday morning. Like really, it's Sunday morning. Why don't they like your status update? Are they all pulling away from you? Are you on an island? Do they hate you? Are you invisible?

"Oh, I'm sure that's just you, Sharon."

Is it?

If you're like some super unstable people you spend a lot of your time worrying about what other people think of you. You might even lean over your desk to your co-worker and ask, "Do you hate me?" They look at you sideways and tell you that they are trying to get the newsletter out on time.

"Oh, I'm sure that's just you, Sharon."

Is it?

O.k. you sick bastard... Breathe in... Breathe out...

Let's pretend for a minute that no one was ever again capable of giving a complement, of responding to a good deed, of telling you that what you thought mattered...

...Of responding in any way...

...

Are you o.k. with that?

Are you comfortable with yourself? Do YOU think you are a good person? Do YOU think that what you contribute matters? Do YOU want to leave this world a better place? Do YOU care if others even notice? Are you REALLY o.k. if NO ONE notices? Would you STILL want to make the world a better place? Would you???

Of course you would. Don't be stupid.

And spend less time on Facebook.






Saturday, April 13, 2013

Life is...


She has a pet unicorn.

Life is ___________.

So what's that mean for you today? If I could see into the mind(s) of all of you reader(s), I'd venture to guess (although I'd like to ADventure to guess) that the fill-ins would be about half...

negative-ish:
Life is shitty.
Life is unfair.
Life is a glass half empty.
Life is a black swamp of despair in which I tread with my face tilted toward the silent sky, nose and mouth pressing above the waterline, struggling for tainted breath. Until I sink into the darkness. And I succumb. Struggling no more.

... and half...

positive-ish:
Life is good.
Life is a bowl of cherries.
Life is a game, and today I am winning.
Life is like a unicorn sliding down a rainbow into a marshmallow cloud. And the cloud rains chocolate drops, but the kind that melt in your mouth and not in your hand and also have marshmallow INSIDE of them (which makes sense because they come out of a marshmallow cloud). And you get to keep the unicorn as a pet, but it doesn't cost anything to feed and it never needs to go to the vet. Do you understand what I am saying? It's like the best pet ever... and it's totally FREE!

Depending on who you are, where you are, when you are, whathaveyou, your pie chart no doubt fluctuates a bit.

some examples:
you accidentally ate your tooth... 68% negative-ish
You just got a raise... 72% positive-ish
But now you have to work on Saturdays... 77% negative-ish

You are probably aware that nothing in life is guaranteed. Just at the moment when your Karma waitress comes by your table with a huge, steaming shit sandwich with a side of train wreck you find out that your buddy over there has cancer or their husband cheated on them on their birthday. Their black swamp of despair causes you to adjust your percentages. You don't have it THAT bad. Really, if you think about it, even in your darkest moments you're not quite the mess that you sometimes imagine that you are.

So smile, you lucky bastard! You get to live another day!

Nothing in life is guaranteed... Except your ultimate demise. Now that you're relatively happy with your situation, take some time to plan for your death.

"Holy shit, Sharon! This is how you're going to end this post?"

Dude, you could die before you even finish reading this. Does anyone besides yourself know any of your passwords? Do you know where the photos are that you'd like to use for your slideshow? Does anyone know whether you want to be buried or cremated? And who's paying for that stuff? Have you even STARTED sculpting the statue that will hold your cremains?

What if you planned it all yourself? Now! What if your slideshow was funny and had all of the cat memes inserted at random intervals. And have you EVER liked funeral homes? Maybe you could plan another venue. Maybe start an envelope with cash that someone can use to pay for everything. Put your important documents in one place.

You COULD guarantee that everyone at your funeral come away with a small gift that you create while you are alive. You COULD guarantee that there is a menu planned for the snack table with all of your favorite treats and beverages. You COULD guarantee that you have a will. And maybe life insurance.

Do that.

Life is short.

Friday, April 5, 2013

Well, ain't that sexy? And why you should get a bra at Victoria's Secret.

Things were getting a little strange up there. I kept saying things like this to my husband...

"Does it look like I have four boobs?"

YOU know what I'm talking about. Like your REGULAR boobs AAAND the ones that come out the top of your bra. The pudding boobs. Was this whole deal my boob's fault or my intimate wear's? I was starting to think that it had something to do with my semi-annual trip to Target's underwear section. I'm pretty sure that this was a full-blown bra dilemma. Damn you, Target! You are so limited in your awesomeness!

Maybe there are others who've got this boob thing licked (ha ha). Maybe having my business in all the right places isn't such a far fetched idea. I started threads on lists, I did some research on-line. The consensus was that I needed to take a trip to Victoria's Secret. I was fully on board with spending a fortune on bras as long as they solved all of my life's problems. "Fuel the jet!" I said. "We're going to the mall!"

I picked a few bras in what I thought were my size and took them back to the dressing room. The lady who showed me my dressing room was beautiful, and she said...

"Have you been measured in the last six months?"

I said "no" which wasn't a lie since I've never been in a Victoria's Secret's dressing room. I put the "let's start here" bra on as instructed and pushed the button for her to come. This lovely lady came into my private area and proceeded to wrap the measuring tape around me in several areas, and then she decreed what my size is in real life.

Ask me if it was anywhere near what I've been wearing for the last few decades.

"Sharon, was her bra decree anywhere near what you've been wearing for the last few decades?"

No, it was not.

Holy shit! She came back with A DRA-WER full of items to try on, each more awesome than the next. I didn't know what to think. It was mind-blowing.

After like a half-hour I found the most awesome thing in the world, laid out 52bucks, and went home with perfection.

Ask me if everyone's all like, "Damn, girl. Nice tits!"

"Well? Are they?"

In my head, they all are.

Monday, April 1, 2013

Menopausitive!

Pausitive?


You know when you e-mail your spouse several times a day to see if he still loves you and you have candy for dinner and you harbor hatred so intense for a specific human that you're sure that he must, via some sort of juju, be suffering in some part of his body and you feel like there is an alien in your stomach, no, your lower bowel region, no, your liver, no, it's really cancer and you need to start giving away your stuff to your co-workers and bid them a final farewell as you leave work and tell them that you love them and that you might never see them again. Maybe you secretly wish Allison would volunteer to create your funeral slide show because she's really good at that kind of stuff. You hope that they make good use of all of your leftover art supplies. I should write down all of my passwords.

And I'm not even close to menopause!!! I'm just at the "Let's have a period every few weeks, I mean days, I mean months, and let's make it extra shitty and let's maybe release The Kraken inside there somewhere to jiggle all of the organs and maybe pull out some pipes, maybe make a balloon animal" stage.

That's fair (sarcasm).

Hey, female person who's mid 40's who has two teenagers with interesting-to-deal-with situations with one about to go to college and one who is hell-bent on making things hell-bent and who also maybe works at a non-profit making a shitty salary doing things that people often say "I could never do that!" about and who constantly regrets most of her choices made from ages 18-24, no 18-30, no 14-42.

What the shit?

"So Sharon, you're always so happy, I mean, you always appear so happy, I mean, you're often smiling... sort of... well now, is that really a smile? What's that she's doing with her eyes?"

Well, there's a method to the madness! I could not get work or personal shit done if I showed up wielding sharp items screaming banshee cries (or COULD I?).

"What do you do, Sharon, to be so awesome all of the time?

I drink beer!* O.k., maybe not before work, but if I know there's some cold ones somewhere at some time waiting for me, well then, that is enough to keep me smiling.

"Uhhh... Seriously? You solve all of your problems with beer?"

Yes, yes I do. Just beer. Hard liquor creates more problems than it solves. Wine is disgusting. Beer is comfortable. It is a warm blanket. It never cheats on you. You can always count on it. It is your friend.

Unless it is not your friend, in which case I recommend Netflix.



*and I have a a very awesome husband.


Monday, March 18, 2013

What the SHIT, middle age?

Seriously?
Remember when there was like pestilence and like plagues and junk and folks got married in their teens and people died like in their 30's and that was a full fucking life? You maybe sat around at night singing hymns, went adventuring for scraps of food. Sewed a smock. You didn't complain to everyone about your arthritis because your leprosy made it so that you didn't have lips.

Was that so bad?

The moment after we slip out of our mothers we all transition into festering, decaying bags of organs that we schlep around from milestone to milestone. This bag "graduated" from kindergarten. This bag got into a college. This bag got married. This bag became a CPA.

Whoa, Sharon... What the shit are you talking about? And can you please try to make a funny post? So far this is kind of a bummer.

Oh... Right...

It all started with this magnificent zit!

Not just any zit. This is one of those "MOTHER OF ALL ZITS" type of zit. Like the kind of zit where you wonder if it could possibly be a boil. And then you freak out because boils are like something that God uses to smite people in the bible, and you are positive that you want no part in that business. Like you've seen a boil a couple of times in your life, and you almost threw up every single time. It's like a Jurassic Park zit.

And it's between my eyes, pushing against my brain, possibly writing this blog post of its own will.

But seriously.

Don't middle-aged people have it bad enough? Let's just start by breaking down what's presented in the above photo alone...
  • Sunken in eyeballs due to fat redistribution. This is the lamest shit EVER! Let's take the stuff that makes us look NOT LIKE THE GUY FROM GOOSEBUMPS and put it, oh... I don't know... on our stomachs, hips, and ass. I've been athletic-ish my entire life, and I now look a fall fruit. Really, nature?
  • Slightly jaundice pallor. I don't know what to make of this. I know, it's my fault for having kids thus leading to the over-consumption of alcohol thus leading to an exhausted liver thus leading to the yellowing of the skin. But truth be told, I usually increase the yellow tones on Photoshop when editing photos, so I succeeded in saving a few seconds of my time which is just enough to pop the top on a cold Red Stripe. Ahhh...
  • Nice, even eyebrows morphing into a couple of really long hairs on each brow ridge. Now this one is one-part old and one-part genetics. I'm pretty sure that when my dad died he had like three eye brow hairs on each side that were like an inch long. I no longer pluck my eyebrows, I just trim.
  • Uneven skin tone. Oh the hormones, they be off the hook. Did I have that brown patch yesterday? No? Welcome to pre-menopause. Not to mention the splotches that I'm pretty sure are cancer.
Gahdammit! My shit is falling apart. I all but hobble from my bed in the morning to make the coffee so that I have the energy to take a shower. Did I mention that I work out? I down a half-dozen ibuprofen to schlep my junk from point a to point b to perform tasks needed to receive a paycheck to pay for more meds and more healthy products to prolong this existence. For what?

So that I can have shitty acne?

GARRRRHHHH!

I need to work this out. There is hope, right?

Here are some things that I've gathered that can maybe help those in a similar situation:
  • Dave swears by Stridex pads. He recommends cleaning the affected area several times a day to dry it out. You can also rub the area down with the pad to work away any scabby areas or dead skin that sometimes gathers around a zit.
  • Let's say you're a squeezer and you've created a mangled-looking situation (see above photo). Wash your face with an anti-bacterial cleanser before you go to bed then add the smallest of dabs of triple anti-biotic ointment to the scabby area. The squozen area will not scab up super badly, and the whole business will heal more quickly. You will wake up with a zit that is softer and less like a shelf of gross skin. 
  • Don't stress. I know, right? But seriously, stress is a huge zit causer. I read it on the internet.
  • Just know that until you're like REALLY old, you are just going to get zits. Fluctuating hormones associated with the menopausal years just sets you up for zit failure. Just embrace it. 
Or blog about it.


Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Thank you, sweet baby Jesus...

Driving to work today I caught the Johnny Marr interview on CD101.

Heavy exhale...

This is EXACTLY what I've been craving deep in my heart and my soul. Couldn't wait to get home and iTunes the shit outta that fucker's new album. If you asked me to review the "sound", I'd have a really hard time putting a finger on it. To be honest, it wasn't at all what I was thinking it would be...

... but it was exactly what I was hoping for.

Maybe a newer version of 80's alternative rock? No. That's not even it. And I don't really want it to be. Fuck! I just don't know! Something so familiar yet altogether new, unique.

It's just Johnny Marr.